GUYS. I am freaking giddy with excitement that this blog post is actually happening, because it means big changes for Kimberly Haydn Consulting. Today, I’m saying screw off to fear and making a bold leap from business consulting to helping women find joy in motherhood while learning to love themselves.
For the past four years, I have been helping women either start new businesses or revamp existing ones. I’ve met some AMAZING women who are doing great things and have enjoyed the journey so very much. Many of the women I’ve worked with have become friends, and I am so grateful to every single person who has allowed me to walk alongside them as they built their businesses.
A little over a year ago, I began to yearn for more. Here’s the thing, even after a client transformed her business, she still wasn’t always happy. She was often overwhelmed because she was spending more time working. More clients and more business often equal more time spent on your business, which can be seen as both a blessing and a curse.
The whole “you’re so busy, that’s a great problem to have!” thing is sometimes bullshit.
As moms, we are often conflicted. It is hard to find joy in motherhood when you’re running on empty and feeling pulled in more directions than you have arms. More clients might mean missing a ballet recital, going to the recital might mean turning down work… and neither option feels good. There’s always this pull between your business and your family, and it is hard to walk that line without feeling like you’re letting someone down.
Let’s not even start the conversation about how as working women, we don’t take nearly enough time for ourselves!
Then there’s the whole fear thing. So many of my clients were afraid to grow their businesses because the fear of failure was crushing. It was stronger than their dream, and that is so very sad.
But let’s be real, the lies we tell ourselves, the ones about us not being good enough (moms, partners, people, daughters, Halloween costume makers, whatever), the ones about us not being pretty enough, or skinny enough, or smart enough, or funny enough, cripple us every. single. day.
Like how I don’t do many live videos because I don’t love the way I look (I guess I could throw on some makeup and straighten my hair, but that just feels like effort I don’t want to deal with). How stupid is that?! I might have something amazing to share with the world, but I don’t, because I start an IG story and go, ick, nevermind.
More often than not, there were lies my clients believed about themselves that were preventing them from loving life. From being happy.
Sometimes, I worked with women who were flabbergasted when a successful business didn’t mean they were happy. They could finally buy that Louis Vuitton bag, but they didn’t feel joy. What the heck?! Because happiness isn’t found in bags or cars. Building a successful business doesn’t automatically mean you’ll be full of joy. Sometimes it just means having more money.
Somewhere along the way, I started to become disenchanted with my business. I felt defeated when a client I’d been working with for three years felt strong enough to end our weekly calls, because her business was booming and she felt confident in running it without the extra support, because despite her success on paper, she was looking more tired than ever before, and was fighting back tears talking about how often her son made comments about her saying “I’ll be there in a minute”, because she was always on her computer. She felt like she was failing as a mom, and she felt overwhelmed by the feelings of guilt she was experiencing.
Kind of hard to say “yay, I’m so excited about your business” when someone is feeling down and out as a woman.
Sometimes clients I worked with didn’t accomplish their goals or grow at all. Many times, it was because they didn’t know what they really wanted, or they were unable to put what we talked about into action because something internal was holding them back.
When I thought about it, I realized that very often, my clients either didn’t meet their goals because they couldn’t get past the lies they were holding onto, or they met them and then developed a whole new set of problems, because they were afraid, overwhelmed, exhausted, and depleted. They were not finding joy in motherhood. They weren’t finding joy at all.
After much thought, I began to feel stirred to address those issues instead of SEO, marketing, pricing, and ideal clients.
Because while I LOVE working with business owners, I’d rather work with women who want to transform their lives and love themselves, wherever they are in their journeys.
I want to empower women to be all in when it comes to their goals because failure doesn’t scare them anymore. I want them to embrace where they are now, and find joy in the midst of their mess.
Because we all have messes. Some more than others. Some are actually messy in the literal sense, some have more mental mess, and some have a mixture of both.
Let’s address THAT. Let’s lift one another up and find ways to do this whole mom thing in a way that allows us to feel joyful and content.
So today, I am excited to announce that I’m plowing through my fears, and will be focusing on helping women find joy while working on their messes!
Moving forward, you can expect this from Kimberlyhaydn.com:
- Stories, inspiration, and honesty about motherhood. We’ll talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly. Because motherhood is often all three of those things, all in one day! If you have a story you’d like to share about being a mom, please reach out here and let’s chat! I want to feature real moms once a month, and I’d love for you to be one of them! Finding joy in motherhood is a journey, and I’d love for us to walk alongside one another.
- Tips and mom-hacks to make parenting easier: Because who doesn’t love easier? I’ll be sharing tips on organization, recipes, relationships, self-care, and more!
- Courses, mentoring, and opportunities for me to literally organize your life. I’m so excited about this one! I have some awesome courses in the works for 2019 that will help with organization and self-acceptance. I’m also excited to start offering in-home organization because organization is basically my favorite thing ever. I can’t wait to get my hands on some pantries, toy rooms, and home offices. Eek! I’m also super pumped to start booking speaking gigs, which is equal parts terrifying and exhilarating.
Most of all, you’ll find honesty here. You’ll find that I’m just a mom, like anyone else. A mom with good days and bad days. A mom who can go from feeling like a Pinterest-esq rockstar mom to a total failure in three seconds flat.
I hope that you’ll stick with me because I’m so excited to start on this new journey.
If you love making mom friends who you can be yourself with, stick around and let’s get to know each other.
If you feel like you are less than joy-filled, and need to make finding the joy in motherhood a priority so you can be your best self (and in turn be the best for the ones you love), I hope you’ll learn to love yourself here.
If you’re ready to transform yourself, while finding joy in motherhood, find out how I can help you here!
If you’re a business owning mom, I haven’t totally ditched my business consulting roots! I will be taking on a limited amount of business consulting clients per year and would love to chat with you! Drop me a line here and let’s chat.
So here we go, just like that, a new business has been born. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart to everyone who has been with me thus far, and will continue to support me as I make these changes!
There is nothing more powerful than a woman who believes in herself. Let’s be those women, and raise those women. Let’s find joy in motherhood together. We’ve got this.
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